Monday, June 28, 2010

Sad Times.....

Almost eight weeks ago my precious mother went to the hospital for diverticulitis. They treated it for nine days with antibiotics with no success. They did emergency surgery taking a foot of her colon and gave her a colostomy. Because she was a diabetic and had been on Prednisone for almost twenty years, her wound never healed. During her fifth week in the hospital they overdosed her on Morphine giving her 20 mg in four hours. When they discovered their error, they flushed her with fluids so fast they caused her to develop pneumonia. She also got VRE which is a hospital acquired Vancomycin resistant staph infection along with e-coli and Peritonitis. She didn't want to die and fought so hard to overcome all of these obstacles, but she eventually succumbed to the pneumonia that filled her lungs. On Thursday, June 24, my sweet mother passed away.

After seeing her suffer in agonizing pain for weeks on end, it was a relief to the family to finally see her at rest. Because she was a Christian, we know that she is in a better place and we are comforted in that knowledge.

It is still so hard for me to even comprehend this. We have been preparing ourselves for my mother-in-law's death. She is in end stage Alzheimer's and only weighs 73 pounds. I can hardly believe that she has outlived my own mother, who was only 67 years old.

Please keep our family in your prayers. My dad had major lung cancer surgery last year. He is still in a lot of pain, especially after staying at the hospital day and night for so many weeks. He is exhausted and also dealing with anger towards the hospital for the many errors they made that sabotaged my moms health and we believe killed her. He will have many adjustments learning to live without my mom.

52 comments:

Patricia said...

Dear sweet Robin, I am so very sorry. My heart grieves for all of you. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. ((((Hugs)))

Lisa at Greenbow said...

What nightmare Robin. I am so sorry to hear this tragic news. It will take a long time to deal with this. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

keewee said...

Dear Robin, I feel your sorrow as I too lost my Mother a few years ago. She also was in hospital.
I will keep you and your family, in my thoughts and prayers.
Jennifer

Jayne said...

Oh Robin, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I can understand how you feel that the mistakes made by the hospital contributed to your beloved mom's death. Please take solace in the fact that she is now at peace and no longer in pain. She will remain forever in your hearts. Blessings to you and your family.

cherry said...

Miss Robin please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you at this very sad time .. My you find some comfort in your memories, your faith and the support of your family and friends..
Big hugs, Cherry

Cameron said...

Robin,

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family at this difficult time as well as for the health of your father and your mother-in-law.

My own mother passed away at 51 (1983) from lung cancer. Her cancer went undetected by her doctor and untreated until three weeks before she passed. He treated her for pneumonia until we got her to another hospital. I do understand both the loss of a "young" mother and the medical errors that cause suffering and worse.

My mother-in-law has Alzheimer's. It's sad to watch as she has never had any other medical issues.

Please take care of yourself while under all of this stress and sadness.

Carolyn Gail said...

So very sad to learn of your Mother's passing, Robin and the terrible ordeal you've gone through with the hospital.

I pray for you and your family that you will see better days. Many blessings.

Ginny said...

Robin, you and your family are in my prayers as you adjust to life without your mother. My prayers also go out for healing for your father and for strength and peace for you all as you anticipate the death of your mother-in-law. I am so sorry.

Ruth's Photo Blog said...

You have been on my mind recently and now I know why.My prayers are with you and the family during this sad time.May you find comfort in knowing that one day you will meet Mother again.
Hugs,Ruth

PatioPatch said...

Dear Robin

such shockingly sad news. I pray for you and your father because loss is such a heavy cross to bear and words alone are inadequate.

Laura x

Heather Bell said...

Dear Robin - I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I pray that the memories you have will help keep you strong in the coming weeks. Remember to take care of yourself as you take care of your loved ones.

Tatyana@MySecretGarden said...

Oh, Robin, what a sad news. It's tough to lose a mother, it's even tougher when she was not even 70, and it's so hard when some mistakes were made during her treatment. I know the last pretty well from the experience with my Mom. It's good that you and your Dad could be near during her last days, and she was surrounded by the people who loved her. I know that you are very proud to be HER daughter and you are happy that SHE was your Mom! Our parents are with us as long as we remember them. You take care of yourself. You have so many people who think of you now and pray for you and your family.
Hugs,
Tatyana

Thoughtfully blended hearts said...

Robin, praying for you and your Dad...having gone through things similar I understand your anger and pain complicating your grief...take one hour at a time and then one day at a time...take care of yourself...and heal...

fairegarden said...

I am so very sorry about the loss of your sweet Mother, Robin. Your family has been through so much. May you all find peace. I know your faith will help you.
Frances

Richard said...

Robin...I'm so sorry for your lose. My prayers are with you and your family.

Dave said...

Robin,

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss! I can definitely understand your father's anger and sadness. My prayers are with you!

Carolyn said...

Hi Robin,
I am so very sorry for your loss- I am praying for you your Dad and family.

Take care,
Carolyn

Sheila said...

When I first saw your blog, I thought it was going to be your mother-in-law. I'm so sorry that you have lost your mother this way! You are no doubt exhausted & in a state of shock. But Jesus can be with your family during these days.

We sing a little chorus at our church that helped in my time of trouble...


"He's the Lily when I'm in the valley
My Physician when I'm in pain
He's my Helper when I need His Council
And He's with me in sunshine or rain
He's a Friend that's closer than a brother
And He's always by my side
Why should I be afraid-why should I be dismayed
When Jesus will always abide."

Cherish your sweet memories!

Hocking Hills Gardener said...

Oh Robin I am so sorry for the loss of your Mother.My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.It is so hard to watch them go through so much. It was the same with my Dad. The one consultation was that I also knew he was in a better place without pain like your Mother.
It is so sad about what your Mother in Law is going through too. It is such a slow disabling disease.
It gets easier but we always will miss them. Take comfort in knowing she will be waiting on you to see her again.

Brooke (CreativeCountryMom) said...

Oh sweet Robin, you are in my heart and prayers.

Cloudia said...

Blessings & Aloha from Waikiki

Comfort Spiral

Garden Lily said...

So sorry to hear, Robin. You and your father are in my thoughts and prayers.

Ewa said...

What a tragic story Robin - so sorry to read it. I keep you in my prayers. Take care.

The Garden Ms. S said...

Oh Robin, I am so sorry. I lost my mom and remember the grief so well. Hang in there, the love will carry you through.

nancybond said...

Robin, I am so sorry to read of your recent loss. Your Mom looks like she was a lovely woman, just from her photo. I am also sorry for the circumstances surrounding her death. I hope that wonderful memories will help ease the pain in the upcoming days and weeks. (((Robin & Family)))

Rose said...

Dear Robin, I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother was indeed much too young to be taken from you, and I hope that you and your family can find some comfort in knowing that she is in a better place. May your memories of all the loving times you shared with her also bring you peace. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Patchwork said...

Oh, Robin. I am so sorry to hear this.
You and your family will be in my prayers.

God Bless,
Linda..

Muddy Boot Dreams said...

Robin, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Know that you, and your family are in our hearts, and our prayers.

Jen

NellJean said...

She fought a terrific fight, with so many obstacles to overcome. I hope it is a small consolation to know that we all care.

My heart aches for your father, for all of you. She is my age. I love the picture of her, loving hands preparing food for the family.

Brenda@Cozy Little House said...

I wondered where you were. Now I know. I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. The hospital should be made accountable for this error of the worst magnitude. Will keep you and your family in my thoughts.
Brenda

Gardening in a Sandbox said...

You were so missed on your blog. I wondered if anything had happened to one of your family. Now we know. I offer you my sincere sympathies. I lost my Mom in 2006 and I miss her everyday. Hugs.

Poetic Shutterbug said...

Robin, I am deeply, deeply sorry for your loss. I know how incredibly difficult this can be and know that your Mom, though not physically with you will remain with you forever in your heart. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Curbstone Valley Farm said...

Robin, I am truly sorry for your loss. Our family experienced some similar medical errors recently. It is difficult enough when a loved one is critically ill, without having to question the quality of their care. My heartfelt thoughts and prayers go to you and your family in this time of sorrow.

The Giraffe Head Tree said...

Robin, I'm so sorry to hear about this turn of events in your life. You've been so quiet of late and now we know why. You and your family will of course be in our thoughts and prayers.

Gail said...

Oh Robin, I am truly sorry and know that I do feel your grief. May God bless you and your family.

Mary Lou said...

My sympathy to you and yours. I know how it is to let one go but the way she went, I know, is heartbreaking. Try to accept God's comfort and reasoning.
Will pray for you and your dad.

Jennifer said...

I am sad for your loss as I know how it feels to an extent...my own mother has been gone for 6 years. I am a nurse also so the errors made are also very upsetting to me. Prayers for you. The pain will get better with time.

Vicki's Bit-o-earth said...

Oh dear sweet Robin... I'm without words. Just such an utterly unnecessary and senseless loss. My heart goes out to you. Go Bless you and your family~ xxVicki

cindy said...

Robin you are in my prayers, I am truly sorry to hear. I hope you find peace after all this, and I can only wish you dad gains strength from the anger he is feeling. I'll pray for him. I worked all my life with the elderly and I teach scrapbooking, it was one way to hold on to memories and photos - perhaps you can make one for you dad
Think of you these days,
Cindy from Prince Edward Island

A Garden of Threads said...

My thoughts and prayer are with you during this difficult time. Your pain will lessen as each day passes and your Mom will always be with you through wonderful memories. Hugs!!!

beckie said...

Robin, you have my deepest sympathies and prayers. Your loss seems so unfair and needless. I wish you the courage to over come the pain and remember the love and happy times you shared with your Mother.

Noelle said...

Hello Robin,

I apologize for my later comment, but my heart goes out to you and our family. The unexpected death of a loved one is so tragic and sad. My prayers are with you and your family.

Sherri said...

Oh Robin I am so truly sorry for the loss of your Mom! I also pray for you, your Dad and your whole family! God Bless You All!

Decadent Housewife said...

So sorry you have had to endure such difficulties. Condolences to you and your loved ones.

Joyouspen said...

Robin, I told Diane the other day that it's still surreal that Betty is gone. I rarely saw her, but feel I never lost touch through Diane. My mom was 82 and in the nursing home for years, so we were at least prepared. It seems so much harder when it's quick and unexpected like this. I'm so sorry about all the mistakes that contributed to her suffering, but don't let it fester. I know you know to take it straight to God and leave it there, for your own sake. I'm still praying for you all.

Penny @ The Comforts of Home/Lavender Hill Studio said...

Robin my heart and prayers go out to you and your family at your time of sadness.
(((((((HUGS)))))))
Penny

My Cottage Charm said...

Robin, I came over to thank you for being my newest follower...then I read your last post. My heart is just broken for you. :*( I am SO SO sorry for your loss, I just don't know what else to say except I will keep you and your precious family in my prayers. I'm so glad your momma loved the Lord, at least she is in a better place with no more pain. It's hard to be the ones left here, but God can give us peace for our broken hearts as well. If there's anything I can do, please let me know. I will def keep you in my prayers.
Blessings & Hugs
Missy
Please come visit me again, I'd love to chat with you sometime. :)

marmee said...

dear robin...i am so sorry for all you have been through and having your mom taken away from you like that. i will be praying for you, your dad and your family.

Kerri said...

Oh Robin - I am so very sorry! You and your family are in my prayers!

Naturegirl said...

Robin I am so very saddened to hear of your mother's passing. I just don't know why some have to bear so much as you and your family are at this time. Peace be to your dear mother.
I send comfort and prayers your way.I give you a gentle hug.
I understand your grief Robin as I too have been through the wringer these past few years.
We are blessed to have a compassionate community of bloggers care.

Anne Marie said...

I'm so very sorry for what you must be going through....what a tough time for family - and hopefully your mother didn't suffer because of the morphine....goodness...what a terrible thing to happen to your mother....
you are in my prayers today~
xo+blessings,
Anne Marie

Bringing Pretty Back said...

Oh my gosh, I am so very sorry for your loss. And for your father too. What trying times you are going through.
Praying.
Kristin